I knew I was in love pretty much immediately - at least to the extent I was capable of knowing. I was certain I wanted to have kids with her. But what I couldn’t have seen back then (but wish I could give myself credit for having forecasted), was how much she’d grow. How much she’d challenge herself, and deepen, and evolve. How much she would discover about herself, her gifts, her hang-ups, her passions, and just how much more in love with her I’d become with each new revelation. Happy birthday @vanderkimberly... you inspire me and everyone you know. Thanks for never settling for anything less than your (or my) best. ❤️
51,594 Likes | 4 days ago | 474
We get to choose how we react to the world. We get to choose how we respond to what life throws at us. And it’s not about faith, or choosing the “right” path, or being moral, or even good. Those are all nice ideas that can help light the way, but ultimately... what truly serves us? What nourishes our soul? Aligns with our heart’s desire? What affords us true clarity and creates space for lasting happiness? There are so many easy ways to spark outrage, self-righteousness and fear, and all that has its place, I suppose... but we all have the power to make our own choice. #MondayMusings Sending love to New Zealand and everyone around the world trying to find the light today 💜
2,237 Likes | 8 days ago | 60
Even losing a decathlon to a high school kid is a good time when you’re with @kevinhart4real. @whatthefit on the @LOLNetwork channel on @YouTube. #whatthefit link in bio
35,169 Likes | 9 days ago | 396
❤️ Seven years ago today, this little guy jumped out - feet first - and cracked me wide open. I’d never felt such peace, such love for my fellow human. I was convinced if they could bottle up that feeling... there’d be no more war - it just couldn’t exist in that energy field. Since then, it’s been a joy to witness the reveal of this strong, empathetic, deep little thinker. His determination, sensitivity, and wild sense of humor make me a better human on the daily. I’d like to say I’m raising him, but really... I feel like he’s raising me.
16,935 Likes | 10 days ago | 684
Every once in a while, Twitter is still fun.
16,526 Likes | 11 days ago | 160
It’s #Monday. Get yours 😎
2,547 Likes | 14 days ago | 75
Couldn’t have said it better as myself... #Repost @brandondermer ・・・ without women, none of us would be here ✊ 👩 #internationalwomensday
46,500 Likes | 14 days ago | 1,782
42 years old today. Woke up at 4am to our son throwing up... in our bed. Not quite over the flu, yet, myself. Doubling down on myself as a writer & creator, which is both thrilling and terrifying, and I don’t remember the last time I slept through the night. 21 years ago, The WB TV network got me a limo for the night in #NYC as a present... My college friends all came out and we went to all the “cool” clubs. It was the first time they saw me get recognized, and we partied past 4am. I woke up happier today 😍.
25,422 Likes | 16 days ago | 417
Last week I felt paralyzed by the desire to do everything perfectly. This week I’m paralyzed by the #flu. At least my obsession with perfection isn’t contagious... * or is it? 🤔 #FeverThoughts
15,323 Likes | 21 days ago | 136
Stole my hat, and 97.5% likely to get away with it 🥰
17,384 Likes | 22 days ago | 196
#tbt One of my first headshots. Somebody saw this on a proof sheet and said: “Yes! Found it! Let’s blow up THAT one.” And I must’ve agreed 😬 I don’t believe this one yielded a single job...
52,193 Likes | 23 days ago | 1,785
Concluded #pot was not a performance-enhancing drug in ‘09 #TheMoreYouKnow 💫🙄🥴👍 - #Repost @theonewiththevows ・・・ The Evolution of: James Van Der Beek #JamesVanDerBeek
40,581 Likes | 24 days ago | 955
One of the most cringeworthy phrases I hear, little dude... is, “Be a man.” Especially when it’s said to young boys, because the message is often: “Be tough. Don’t cry. Suck it up. Act like nothing effects you.” To me... that’s just empty posturing. Being a real man means being strong enough to be empathetic. To be sensitive. To be caring, kind, and confident enough to appreciate and nurture your feminine side. If you start with that as a base, all that other stereotypically “manly” behavior (none of which is exclusive to males, btw) might just accomplish some good. But in the meantime... it’s okay to be a boy. ❤️
8,857 Likes | 25 days ago | 119
Thank you @americanair for the huge travel assist. #WhenInDoubtBringTheWagon
47,323 Likes | 27 days ago | 660
So... turns out we’re cruise people. Want to thank everybody on board the @carnival Horizon for leaving us with a treasure trove of “wow” moments. From the food to the service, to the waterslides, to the food, to the entertainment... to the food. We needed this more than we realized. This was our first cruise... it will not be our last. #ChooseFun #carnival #carnivalpartner
39,493 Likes | 30 days ago | 761
If you’ve ever flirted with the idea of going on a cruise, I have one word of advice: Do it. Okay, that’s technically two words, but you should totally go. Aha! I could have just said: “Go.” That would have been one word. But seriously... go for it. It’s fun. And delicious. #choosefun @carnival #carnivalpartner #Carnival (adventures in my stories)
12,783 Likes | 34 days ago | 160
Dad’s still got it 👍
20,494 Likes | 35 days ago | 273
They share a birthday ❤️ It’s amazing how #grandparents can have completely different relationships with your kids than they did with you. Even if they were really good parents... there’s something they’ve figured out the second time around that you just can’t fake. Maybe it’s the part-time nature of the gig, maybe it’s experience, maybe it’s the wisdom that comes with age. Whatever it is... I’m grateful for it.
31,872 Likes | 36 days ago | 211
My funny #Valentines ❤️ #HappyValentinesDay everybody 🥰
11,196 Likes | 39 days ago | 109
What if all the constructs and narratives we’ve come to accept as important - where we live, what we do, what we make, to whom we belong, what we win, who we are - what if the only reason all of that existed... was to serve as the architecture within which we get to try our hand at the much more important (and much more rewarding) task of establishing moments of meaningful connection with one other? What if that was actually all that mattered? #MondayMusings
25,053 Likes | 41 days ago | 199
Caught a sneak peek of #HTTYDragon 3... Scored a collective 12 👍 from this crew. #BeAKingFindYourQueen (And no, I didn’t count incorrectly - bonus points for finding the hidden child in this pic.) #HowToTrainYourDragon
22,097 Likes | 42 days ago | 178
Start your weekend right ❤️
30,365 Likes | 43 days ago | 608
#tbt First magazine photo shoot. I’d used all my season one #DawsonsCreek money to pay off my first two years of college loans and was sleeping on Kevin Williamson’s couch at the time, so my publicist offered his own house for this @people shoot. You ever feel good vibes in a place? 13 years (and a lot of life) later, I rented a house mostly because it reminded me of that one, only smaller. A month after I’d moved in, I came to find out it was the EXACT SAME house... I’d just thought it was smaller because, back when I’d done the photo shoot, my previous residence had been a shared dorm room - so I’d remembered it as huge. I met my wife while I lived there... brought home a baby there... then when we were pregnant with #2 and had to move to a bigger place, I told a friend about it, and she moved in. I’ve since met three other people who’ve lived there, and they all found love, success, babies, or all the above there. Some spots are just kind of magical... and I’m telling you - there’s at least one such place in #LosAngeles
31,538 Likes | 45 days ago | 846
Last-second flight to see somebody I love because... well, her prognosis wasn’t good. Isn’t hopeful. At least according to the doctors. But I guess “good” is really what we choose to make of it all, though, right? Otherwise, we’re just victims of circumstance, dependent on a diagnosis, or some other external “reality” for peace of mind, whereas the truth -the real truth- is that peace of mind is a state of mind... and can come at any time. It’s ultimately our choice, isn’t it? And then, of course... there’s the emotional roller coaster... which is also valid and real, and sometimes we just have to let that movie play out, and acknowledge those feelings so that our body doesn’t have to hold onto them. And somewhere, in the middle of all that, looking for the balance... is us. Life is a crazy thing to get to experience... thank god we weren’t designed to go through it alone.
22,238 Likes | 49 days ago | 146
#Writing is equal parts being the one on the right... and feeling like the one on the left.
4,225 Likes | 49 days ago | 48
Almost exactly twelve years ago, in the post-Super Bowl episode of @crimmindscbs, I killed @jaimeraynewman4real. Now, she’s nominated for an Oscar for producing a short film her husband wrote & directed! The moral of this story: It pays to know me (no matter what I pretend to do to you on screen 🤗) Psyched for you guys! And well-deserved... #Repost @guy_nattiv ・・・ SKIN. For your consideration.
36,845 Likes | 53 days ago | 372
When a toddler wants something unreasonable and throws a tantrum... sometimes the key is to make sure they feel heard. Once they calm down, you can talk about better ways to go about getting what they want. Maybe even strike a compromise. What’s not productive... is mocking them for “caving.” #MondayMusings
29,793 Likes | 55 days ago | 257
Wishing you all such a great weekend you don’t even realize how far down your shirt has come unbuttoned #AndYouDontCare 😎 #BirthdayGirl
45,554 Likes | 56 days ago | 626
5 years old today... my wild card who warms my heart just by existing. Always surprising, always mysterious, always magical. I don’t have favorites... but let’s just say all this one has ever had to say to get me to drop everything for her is “Daddy... I’m here.”
32,967 Likes | 57 days ago | 205
#tbt Five years ago today... when my oldest daughter (then 3) said, “Mommy, you’re going to have the baby tomorrow.”.........
20,476 Likes | 58 days ago | 136
Delayed gratification may be a sign of maturity... but it might classify as torture for a 2 and a 4 year-old 💔#NotMyFault #TheyllBringOurFoodAsSoonAsItsReady
8,128 Likes | 61 days ago | 102
Some of the best lessons of my young life I learned playing football. The rest I learned doing theatre. Yeah... I was that kid. #StillAm #nflplayoffs
17,282 Likes | 64 days ago | 345
How my L.A. kids see #rain is how I want to see life...
16,943 Likes | 66 days ago | 601
Q: What are you supposed to get somebody for your #20thAnniversary? #Repost @espn ・・・ On This Date: In 1999's "Varsity Blues," Jonathon "Mox" Moxon and West Canaan High football won their final game of the season after coach Bud Kilmer lost control of the team.
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You can navigate life with your head or your heart. One of them can plan, calculate, and see several steps ahead. The other tends to be nearsighted... but might just make you happy wherever you’re at. Happy navigation everybody...😘 #MondayMusings
69,422 Likes | 71 days ago | 859
#tbt My head is very much back in the game... but my heart is still relishing last week.
23,033 Likes | 74 days ago | 177
An actor prepares... 😜#latergram #goldenglobes2018
34,851 Likes | 74 days ago | 204
Felt like a winner last night... Eventually.
33,876 Likes | 74 days ago | 267
A little brown velvet, if you please... Thanks @isaia for the kick-ass custom tux. I’m never taking it off. #Repost @ilariaurbinati ・・・ @vanderjames in custom @isaia + @davidyurman + @iwcwatches + @montblanc + @louboutinworld - styled by yours truly
19,626 Likes | 76 days ago | 134
Sunday, Sunday, Sunday...
10,294 Likes | 78 days ago | 162
❤️ rolling with this crew. #MaryPoppinsReturns
36,574 Likes | 80 days ago | 276
What really matters? I’ve come to realize I don’t have the time or bandwidth for stuff that doesn’t. So I’m starting simple. Let’s be a little crazy... and let’s be authentic. And let’s let the rest take care of itself. #Happy2019 people ❤️
23,185 Likes | 81 days ago | 135
2018 was a crazy year... saw my first ever #GoldenGlobe nom for a show I was in (#posefx), started creating 3 shows (which doesn’t translate so well to the Gram - you’ll see more when I can announce), and got to meet the magical little Gwendolyn ❤️ Ending the year grateful and excited 🙏🏻 #TopNine. #HappyNewYear everybody. Blessings and abundance to you all!
11,879 Likes | 81 days ago | 77
Happy trails, 2018... (And also to our elf June who got special permission from Santa to stay with us until the New Year.)
15,317 Likes | 81 days ago | 114
If you sneak away for some alone time and you don’t take an obligatory selfie... did it really happen?
9,672 Likes | 82 days ago | 37
Jumping into 2019 like...
26,756 Likes | 83 days ago | 367
Sometimes all it takes to make a kid happy is attention. Sometimes it’s a lot trickier, so I’m grateful for today 🙌
16,681 Likes | 85 days ago | 156
28,175 Likes | 85 days ago | 178
My catalogue shot if I was selling #RV’s. Or coffee mugs. Or #parenthood.
8,932 Likes | 86 days ago | 97
You cannot stop the #christmascheer at the #RV rental facility, you can only hope to contain it.
8,424 Likes | 88 days ago | 52
... And to all a good night ❤️ *(and if you’ve ever denied a child the use of a bathroom... all I’ll say is I hope Santa was looking the other way. There’s always 2019 🤫🤗🎅)
13,912 Likes | 89 days ago | 642
Sound ⬆️🔊... No nap. Candy canes and hot chocolate at dinner. Late bedtime. What could go wrong? #TisTheSeason #HappyHolidays 🎅 #Parenthood #parentlife
46,806 Likes | 89 days ago | 563
If you played my mom on TV for six years... you can bring my kids cookies before lunch and get away with it. #AsLongAsYouHideSomeForMe #DawsonsCreek
13,321 Likes | 94 days ago | 1,265
I’ve tried to ban glitter from my house. But I’m powerless. Can’t hold back the tide. Time to go national. Anybody with me? #BanGlitter #GlitterBan #NotEvenKidding
4,900 Likes | 95 days ago | 34
It’s official... running into @jamar_neighbors confirms that I train at the coolest fight gym in town. Which is super duper important. 🤩
46,291 Likes | 96 days ago | 1,025
Sniffed out my secret junk food stash like a truffle pig. Balanced on the handle of the step stool like a cat. And when caught in the act, said: “Daddy... no see me,” like a Jedi. Some kids you #parent... some just figure it the f*ck out while you’re not looking.
22,781 Likes | 98 days ago | 235
We’re going to need a bigger wagon. 🎄
24,469 Likes | 99 days ago | 153
I just work here. ❤️
12,866 Likes | 101 days ago | 90
Hey, here’s a #Firstworld #ParentingHack for you: Turn your dining room into an art/meditation room! First step: Have a dining room. Second step: Eat your meals in your kitchen. Third step: Be really good friends w/ design genius @erinfetherston - like a really good friends - and do nice stuff for her to the point where she decides to transform the messiest disaster of a room in your house as a present, on a budget ❤️. Maybe she does it out of the goodness of her heart, maybe she does it because the room offends her sensibilities and she’s sick of dealing with the aesthetic when she visits. Doesn’t matter - point is, you have a room your kids love that makes your wife happy 😊 (Dreamcatcher by @vanderkimberly, Floating shelf built by me - “#DIY Saga” chronicled in my saved stories - if you check the tags, the rest of it is actually not too stupid expensive). Pics by @mollyktadams #interiors #homedecor
9,238 Likes | 104 days ago | 87
Championship-level #soccer parenting 😎. This is why we practice all season long🏆 #IHaveToGoToTheBathroomAgain
83,609 Likes | 105 days ago | 1,172
Only one kid tried to defect while we attempted this pic... Not bad. Swipe ⬅️ through carousel for the process. 🏃♀️ #christmastree #familypic
1,408 Likes | 106 days ago | 9
The category is: Award Season! Huge congrats to @theebillyporter and the entire @poseonfx cast on the #HFPA #goldenglobes2018 nominations for Best Actor and Best Drama Series. 💃🏾 Billy’s embodiment of Pray Tell is both soaring and grounded, and sincere and f*cking fabulous. I actually told a reporter that if Billy didn’t get nominated, I quit. So... doubly grateful this morning 🥴 #Repost @poseonfx ・・・ Children, it's time to celebrate. Sending congrats to @theebillyporter and the entire cast and crew of #PoseFX for their #GoldenGlobes nominations. 🙌 💜 Can't wait for season two.
10,460 Likes | 108 days ago | 349
I’ve heard people ask: “How the hell am I supposed to explain #transgender to my kid?” Maybe it helps to let them stay up past their bedtime. Maybe it helps to have your secret junk food box on the counter. Or maybe kids are just smarter than we think. This is what happened when we had “the talk” about my #posefx cast with our just-turned eight year-old. 😯#WhileTheyRifledThroughMySecretJunkFoodBoxIUsuallyKeepHidden
6,489 Likes | 110 days ago | 48
Suicide prevention hotline. Community. Education and advocacy. These are what @trevorproject offer young #LGBTQ youth, and it was my honor to get to join @mrrpmurphy and my @poseonfx cast in all their fabulousness to accept an honor at their gala tonight. To any kids struggling with their identity or self-worth in a toxic environment, know that there are people out there who care about you, who want you to find your authentic self, and who will celebrate what makes you different. Be you. You’re worthy of love and compassion no matter how many expectations you defy. 🌈 #trevorproject #posefx
22,320 Likes | 113 days ago | 141
If nothing else, I’m an entirely adequate mode of transportation.
24,383 Likes | 115 days ago | 142
I don’t think I’ll ever wind up thinking, “You know, I wish I’d taken fewer afternoons off to have a date with my kid.” I might, however, wind up wondering why I went so long between haircuts, though... ALSO - today is #GivingTuesday - a chance to give back to all the service members (and their families) who sacrifice every day of the year to make moments like this possible. Check out @theuso for more info.
62,338 Likes | 118 days ago | 691
Going to use this as our Christmas picture too, so do me a favor and forget I posted it by next month. Cool?👌Hope you all had a #HappyThanksgiving 🦃
11,810 Likes | 120 days ago | 224
Quick #Thanksgiving PSA: If you have an actor in the family, and they show up to your gathering with a new look, and you say: “So, is this for a role?” You may not mean it as shade... but it’s never a compliment. #TheMoreYouKnow 👍#HappyThanksgiving everybody!
15,435 Likes | 121 days ago | 110
Good light on the @metrolosangeles platform. And no traffic. And no tailpipe exhaust. But really good light 👍
18,451 Likes | 122 days ago | 213
You can’t please all the people all the time...
10,995 Likes | 124 days ago | 385
Guys... I gotta’ to come clean. I’ve been on a cleanse. #DadJoke I hate cleanses... but this one has been okay. 9 days. Eat till you’re full, the menu just narrows to stuff your liver can process easily. Mustache optional, but highly recommended (by me). Last day is just juice. And I’m glad I did it. If nothing else, it got me recognizing how much I overlook in life in anticipation of the food I’m craving. Plus, I figure, my liver does so much for me... why not do a little something for it? Not gonna lie, really looking forward to a burger which is not on the recommended menu. (Grass-fed of course... but on a bun loaded with gluten because life’s too short for gluten-free hamburger buns 🥳). If you’re curious, you can follow @medicalmedium on the gram & see if what he’s sharing resonates with you. (Btw, not getting paid for this, just sharing 😘)
8,208 Likes | 125 days ago | 62
#WilliamGoldman passed away yesterday... the man who wrote #ButchCassidyAndTheSundanceKid, #ThePrincessBride, and #AllThePresidentsMen among many many others. He also wrote a great book on screenwriting I would recommend to any writer. I’m not big on books about writing... but his is aptly titled: “Adventures in the Screen Trade” and it reads like that - it’s a personal account (and at times blisteringly honest self-assessment) full of insight and perspective from a man who wrote more than a few masterpieces. Thanks for the work and the inspiration, Mr. Goldman 🙏🏻
24,488 Likes | 127 days ago | 566
Some days you wonder if you’re failing as a parent... and some days you realize that whatever your shortcomings, your kids might just come out okay anyway. 🥰 #Repost @vanderkimberly ・・・ Good morning 🌞
You can’t be an artist without soldiers to protect you... so want to say thank you to all the veterans and their families for the sacrifices that have created space for us storytellers and freaks and... well, for all of us. Starting with my grandfather. Thank you! #veteransday And when we say #neverforget, let’s hold up our end of the bargain and not forget - not forget about care for our veterans when they get home - physical, mental, spiritual. After they’ve served so bravely, it’s our duty to give these men and women everything they need to get healthy, and get whole.
13,330 Likes | 131 days ago | 144
@vanderkimberly is pairing those in need with those who want to help. Reach out if you’re one of the two. Also, Q: If your wife is a really good person... do you get credit for it? #Repost @vanderkimberly ・・・ ATTN LA: if you know of anybody displaced by the fire and have immediate needs that need to be met, please contact me so that I can connect them to a family ready and able to help! Spread this message far and wide to get those the help they need! 🙏
31,736 Likes | 132 days ago | 141
Feeling profoundly grateful for a quiet evening at home tonight, and for all the #firefighters and first responders putting their lives on the line just a few miles away. Thank you to you and your families for keeping us safe.
10,620 Likes | 132 days ago | 79
Happy Birthday to my spirit animal and musical stuntman @diplo. It’s rare when geniuses have a sense of humor about themselves... I admire your work ethic and drive and how you’re always looking out for the next thing. And your craziness. Thanks for making me proud every time my kids call me “Fake Diplo Daddy.” ✌️Have an amazing birthday, Wes.
54,966 Likes | 134 days ago | 584
Anybody you’ve ever been angry with was once this size... Never hurts to remember that ☮️
22,035 Likes | 136 days ago | 179
Our democracy ain’t perfect... but neither are we. So it works. #vote
2,962 Likes | 136 days ago | 39
Here’s some good news: There are 24+ anti-corruption measures on ballots in 11 states today. @Representus members don’t endorse parties or candidates, they just work across party lines to put anti-corruption initiatives on the ballot. #Vote to #UnrigTheSystem. Link in my bio. If you live in #Arizona #Colorado #Maryland #Massachusetts #Michigan #Missouri #Nevada #NewMexico #Utah #NorthDakota #SouthDakota #NewYork
8,351 Likes | 137 days ago | 69
Writing my next project while at a car wash and just realized I look like the Unabomber; Hollywood edition. I think this election is getting to all of us... Rock your #vote tomorrow, y’all!
14,280 Likes | 138 days ago | 146
“Daddy, if you don’t say it I will do it... but if you say it, I will never do it. Okay?” #4yearsold ❤️🦄
54,006 Likes | 141 days ago | 411
As long as I keep having kids... I can keep dressing up on #Halloween, right?
20,367 Likes | 141 days ago | 105
Baby dinosaur for #Halloween? As you wish...
7,702 Likes | 141 days ago | 71
Day after Halloween feeling like...
7,693 Likes | 143 days ago | 305
The president has said he will bring back family separation. He thinks it’s a winning issue for his party. Whether or not he’s right... is up to you. #vote #SilencedVoices @supportkind
15,565 Likes | 144 days ago | 262
Most people are good. I’m going to come out and say it. I woke up this morning depressed over some of the awful, inexcusable, horribly dark actions of a few people - on line, at microphones, in communities... and it made me scared. And anxious. And it weighed on me. It wasn’t until I forced myself to do a little Qi Gong & meditation (I’m learning for a new project - more on all that later)... that I suddenly remembered that I’d walked through an insanely dense halftime crowd amongst way too many drunk football fans on Sunday with a living extension of my heart on my shoulders - while wearing the visiting team’s hat... and everyone was cool. They were nice. It was a tough grind just to move a few feet, but everybody kept their calm, and even helped. I share this little bit of goodness because it’s easy to let the bad drown out everything else these days... and while it’s human nature to report on the bad and try to fix it, I feel like maybe recognizing what’s right can put us on a little better footing to address what’s not.
22,825 Likes | 144 days ago | 120
Love is a loop ❤️ Sometimes it comes easy... sometimes you’ve got to fight through the noise for it. But it’s never not worth it.
5,707 Likes | 145 days ago | 52
Couldn’t have said this better so I’ll amplify. #Repost @joshbrolin ・・・ Something happens when you say the names and ages aloud. Albeit, it is Sunday, and we mostly sit in our homes feeling relatively safe, but with a new creeping pang in our realities that someone may be coming just around the corner to end our lives or our the lives of the ones most dear to us. That reality is increasing, not decreasing. The level of violence isn’t a conspiracy and, its fact of increase doesn’t randomly exist. We know something is foundationally wrong. We are so self-absorbed, so self righteous that we have started to forget what it means to be of service to others, and how much that feeds our sense of self. We don’t need to take our kids to see the most desperate situations to wake them up. All we need is to demand of ourselves to be of service to someone for something every single day just for the sheer pleasure of anything positive it might bring them. #rip #thepowerofexample
13,274 Likes | 145 days ago | 156
The right company can turn even a heartbreaker of a defeat into a heartwarming day #Rams #Packers
Yesterday marked the birthday of one of my favorite souls... he’s got an agile mind, a huge heart, and - more recently - washboard abs and he’s not afraid to share all of those things on The Gram. And he’s always lit like this - even in a writer’s room. Don’t know how he does it... Happy birthday @hal_ozsan. Give him a follow, people 😎 #Repost @hal_ozsan ・・・ Woke up feeling glorious after a birthday I’d been dreading. Life’s good. Thank you everyone for the birthday love. 📸 @iamjodes . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . #photooftheday #photography #photoshoot #portraitphotography #portraiture #portrait_photography #editorial #malemodeling #actor #writersofinstagram #bedroom
14,151 Likes | 146 days ago | 190
I’d like to propose a constitutional amendment banning soccer play before 10Am... #ItsAConspiracy
7,764 Likes | 146 days ago | 29
100% totally not just caught hiding in the corner of the arcade eating candy🤥 🍭
15,259 Likes | 149 days ago | 208
Asked me: “Daddy... was Michael Jackson alive before Jesus?” His follow-up: “Did Jesus invent the Moonwalk?” #parenthood #kidquestions
13,798 Likes | 151 days ago | 414
Here’s an anti-bullying proposition: Give people in this country the freedom to define themselves as what they are... to identify as what they know deep in their hearts to be. The president’s efforts to take away #transgender as a definition is a wedge issue deliberately brought out to drive people who don’t understand it to the polls to vote for his party. It’s calculated fear tactics... and the victims are a group of human beings who are already more likely to be murdered than any other demographic. Think about that. Think about that really hard if your reaction is: “It’s not that big a deal,” or if you’ve been told this is simply making sense of an overly PC culture. You may not get trans... you might think it’s strange if you haven’t been exposed to it... but you cannot deny that it IS. I happen to have just worked with a number of trans people who were strong, thoughtful, empathetic, talented and certainly worthy of kindness, consideration and human dignity... but for those who may not have had the benefit of my experience, ask yourself this: Do we want to live in a country that is free? Or one in which we let the government place limits on what we’re allowed to say we are? Vote however you need to... I just don’t like bullies, and when I woke up to see friends of mine marginalized and further endangered because the calculation was made that doing so would benefit one party in a mid-term... I had to offer up a little perspective. 🌈
12,066 Likes | 152 days ago | 56
It isn’t whether you win or lose... it’s who came to watch your game. ☯️💜
14,524 Likes | 152 days ago | 79
Immensely displeased a lady of her nobility was seated last row at #Wimbledon? Or 9am #soccer game?
53,633 Likes | 155 days ago | 342
#tbt First baby... 8 years ago. Is it bad that if I didn’t recognize where we lived at the time I wouldn’t be able to tell which baby? 😬 Also worth noting... The Instagram algorithm apparently disapproved of my social media hiatus... If you enjoy my posts, you may want to turn in notifications. If you don’t enjoy them, then perhaps you should ask yourself why you’ve read this far into my caption? 🤔😽
23,535 Likes | 157 days ago | 460
Hey, real quick - do this hat and this chicken make me cool?
17,377 Likes | 157 days ago | 263
It’s important to align oneself with nature. *(and by “nature”... I’m totally counting a petting zoo at a pop-up Halloween fair in the middle of Los Angeles 👍) #TakeYourVictoriesWhereYouCanGetEm #mrbonespumpkinpatch
19,604 Likes | 158 days ago | 75
Take your victories where you can get ‘em. #parenthood
14,108 Likes | 159 days ago | 72
Witnessing the launch of a grand seafaring vessel? Or watching 6 year-olds playing #soccer?
21,084 Likes | 161 days ago | 204
@vanderkimberly IG LIVE at 2pm PST on her feed... Discussed all things baby sleep-related w/ baby sleep expert @sleepsweetsleepdeep Tag a friend who needs this & go to wifey’s page to ask questions. Baby sleep is something we could have gotten a lot better at a lot sooner than we did. Save yourselves!! 😵 ❤️
9,125 Likes | 161 days ago | 63
Been writing. Laser-focused and loving it. Channeling some really crazy stuff, and feeling like energy might be a zero-sum game... which means more writing and fewer moody selfies of me writing. #5secondtimer
56,973 Likes | 167 days ago | 502
Fight for what you feel is right... but don’t forget to focus your lens on what makes you happy.
11,309 Likes | 177 days ago | 140
Taking a break from social media for a bit... Sometimes finding your balance requires losing it, and as a kid who grew up with a rotary phone, I’d like to pick the direction in which I lose it first. Look forward to reconnecting with you all after I explore the validity of #DunbarsNumber
15,587 Likes | 177 days ago | 69
Horse ranch chic 🎂
36,515 Likes | 178 days ago | 413
Eight years old today... she climbs trees, picks out her own clothes, catches lizards, frogs & snails, makes intricate fairy houses, doesn’t take no for an answer (even when you tell her no is your final answer), nurtures and loves her siblings, knows jui jitsu, sings, dances, and has legit beaten me at chess. If I wasn’t her father, I’d want to be her best friend. Happy birthday, kid. Couldn’t be happier to know you ❤️
18,215 Likes | 181 days ago | 130
Snack Day isn’t for amateurs. #SoccerDad
58,844 Likes | 183 days ago | 1,027
#tbt So long ago I can’t remember whether this was the #Emmys or my #Prom 🤔
22,192 Likes | 185 days ago | 261
This is a man who was once made fun of for the way he talked, for being too “gay”, too weird. He could have gotten bitter. Instead he got better and better, built an empire, and now he uses his power to give people who have been marginalized a voice, an opportunity, a job - HALF of the people he hires are women, minorities, or people of color. That’s been his policy. And when I informed him that I had a baby due in the last month of shooting, which would require him to reconfigure a monstrous production, blow up the best-laid plans of hundreds of professionals, even possibly reconceive his creative... he didn’t hesitate. “We’ll shoot you out,” he said. And he did. He created space for me to be home with my wife leading up to the birth, and for it to happen naturally - with me there. A lot of inexcusable behavior in our business has been rightfully called out this last year... I just wanted to call out some of the good I happened to witness. Congrats @mrrpmurphy
33,681 Likes | 186 days ago | 819
Anybody who watched #DawsonsCreek will recognize this location. It’s now underwater, as is much of the state. These are resilient communities who come together in times of disaster (I rode out several hurricanes myself in that red brick building, after boarding up those two windows facing camera), but #Wilmington is currently inaccessible by highway, and many parts of the region will be facing an epic journey to recovery after unprecedented rains and historic flooding. American Red Cross and Donors Choose are always good bets to donate. Link in my bio on choosing a way to give and what to watch out for. I learned a lot in the South... my heart is with you, Carolinas 💙#hurricaneflorence #Repost @ki_aneri ・・・ #hurricane #florence #downtown #wilmingtonnc #🙏🏻
27,814 Likes | 186 days ago | 281
Dessert is a sure-fire attentiveness enhancer.
31,063 Likes | 188 days ago | 204
Everybody was equally thrilled about the 8AM soccer game...
15,865 Likes | 189 days ago | 168
“98% certain I remembered to turn off the oven...” Photo by @robbieaugspurger #Repost @robbieaugspurger ・・・ Very excited to share some classy photos I took recently. SMOKE & MIRRORS featuring @vanderjames wearing @giorgioarmani for @crmensbook. Kewl styling by @juliaehrlich
73,115 Likes | 190 days ago | 1,084
Your heart expands beyond logic to make room for each new child. Your bed, however... does you no such favors.
6,973 Likes | 190 days ago | 33
#tbt That road trip a few years back when we took the #minivan off the beaten path, had a spat over something so stupid I don’t even remember what it was, got lost, and found one of my favorite spots in earth. #MinivanMountainMan 💪🏻
33,416 Likes | 191 days ago | 514
“The days were long, the years were short.” That’s what parents of older children have said to me about raising kids. And it feels true already. It’s SO easy to get consumed by the stresses, the daily grind, the little dramas that won’t even register in your memory a year later. Seven years into #parenthood, I’m realizing more and more that all that really matters... are the moments of connection. So when they happen, give yourself permission to wipe everything off the table and be 100% fully present for them. They’ll make the days happier, and the years worthwhile. ❤️ #ThatsMyPlanAndImStickingToIt #OrAtLeastTrying
36,434 Likes | 193 days ago | 429
I’ve gotten super-nerdy about #pancakes... adding ingredients, experimenting, making them healthy, gluten-free, blah blah blah. I’d like to tell myself these smiles wouldn’t be as big if I just squeezed some batter out of a plastic bottle... so that’s exactly what I’m going to tell myself 🤫
78,915 Likes | 196 days ago | 3,549
Wanted to say a thing or two about miscarriages... of which we’ve had three over the years (including right before this little beauty). First off - we need a new word for it. “Mis-carriage”, in an insidious way, suggests fault for the mother - as if she dropped something, or failed to “carry.” From what I’ve learned, in all but the most obvious, extreme cases, it has nothing to do with anything the mother did or didn’t do. So let’s wipe all blame off the table before we even start. Second... it will tear you open like nothing else. It’s painful and it’s heartbreaking on levels deeper than you may have ever experienced. So don’t judge your grief, or try to rationalize your way around it. Let it flow in the waves in which it comes, and allow it it’s rightful space. And then... once you’re able... try to recognize the beauty in how you put yourself back together differently than you were before. Some changes we make proactively, some we make because the universe has smashed us, but either way, those changes can be gifts. Many couples become closer than ever before. Many parents realize a deeper desire for a child than ever before. And many, many, many couples go on to have happy, healthy, beautiful babies afterwards (and often very quickly afterwards - you’ve been warned 😍). I’ve heard some amazing metaphysical explanations for them, mostly centering around the idea that these little souls volunteer for this short journey for the benefit of the parents... but please share whatever may have given you peace or hope along the way... Along with a new word for this experience. #miscarriage #WeNeedANewName #MoreCommonThanYouHearAbout @vanderkimberly
18,649 Likes | 197 days ago | 172
When you turn the TV off, bugs become rock stars ⭐️
24,939 Likes | 199 days ago | 225
I never looked this cool on the first day of school... *(or any day of school, technically)
30,210 Likes | 201 days ago | 437
(As David Attenborough): For the adult male homo sapien, reaching the shore is only the beginning... Ahead of him lies the long journey across the sand, offspring in tow, along with a wagon-full of crap he’ll have to cart back when the day is done. It’s the closest he’ll get to #BurningMan this year, but such is the life of a parent on #LaborDayWeekend... ❤️
12,743 Likes | 204 days ago | 209
I’m not really allowed to say much about the movie I’m shooting right now... but my character wears this. I feel like this says a lot 😎
12,677 Likes | 204 days ago | 118
#tbt Living my best life with a #bowlcut, #poloshirt and mad sock game at 15 months 😎
13,390 Likes | 205 days ago | 3,021
You’re welcome 😌
11,260 Likes | 206 days ago | 66
2 year-olds make the best @eltonjohn impersonators.
16,694 Likes | 208 days ago | 92
Creative expression is the best child care ❤️
27,757 Likes | 209 days ago | 1,090
So... turns out being a theater geek is not a recessive gene. 🎭 @greatestshowman *(and neither, apparently, is blond hair). • #thegreatestshowman @zacefron @thehughjackman
10,017 Likes | 210 days ago | 184
#Repost @erinhazelton (Happy Friday)❤️🙌 ・・・ I had cancer. ——————— Past tense.
39,391 Likes | 210 days ago | 408
Feel free to try to this at home...
47,020 Likes | 211 days ago | 740
#tbt Real-life coffee with my TV Momma @thereal_marymargarethumes #RealTimeTBT 🤯😘#dawsonscreek
16,585 Likes | 212 days ago | 407
If anybody asks... I was working today.
15,424 Likes | 213 days ago | 102
“You’re not really taking this picture without tucking in that big tag next to my head... are you, Daddy?”
12,405 Likes | 215 days ago | 100
Sunday, Sunday, Sunday!!
10,962 Likes | 216 days ago | 93
Hi, I’m Matt Bromley. You might remember me from such films as “That 80’s A-Hole”, and “Greed: The Musical!” Are you missing watching #PoseFX on Sundays? Well... have I got news for you! Now, through the magic of computing, the entire first season of @poseonfx is now available for your viewing pleasure on FXNOW. Stream yourself some critically-acclaimed television today 👍
9,849 Likes | 216 days ago | 127
I’ve always had an odd relationship with fame. When it first happened, I was never able to make sense of it, what to do with it, or how to “enjoy” it. Then I had kids. It still doesn’t make any real sense... but on days like today, I’m starting to see its utility 🤔 😍 @monsterjam
24,694 Likes | 217 days ago | 125
That’s the #Ocean, kiddo... it’s everywhere around the world at once. Sure, it’s different temperatures, different depths, it behaves differently, and different creatures call different parts of it home... but don’t fall for our fancy labels, or how we’ve tried to divide it up - it’s all the same big body of water.
26,559 Likes | 217 days ago | 178
So far, so good... #DateNight
6,064 Likes | 218 days ago | 27
Dad quotes #Siddhartha once...
12,154 Likes | 218 days ago | 209
#tbt Parentals, circa 1976
18,338 Likes | 219 days ago | 330
He wanted a pet dinosaur. Then his sister caught him a lizard. The moral of this story: Have lots of kids 👍🤔🤪 *(Even though you’ll probably fall behind on haircuts 😬)
7,308 Likes | 220 days ago | 40
“A truth can only be expressed and be enveloped in words if it is one-sided. Everything that is thought and expressed in words is one-sided, only half the truth; it lacks all totality, completeness, unity.” - Hermann Hesse * (This thought occurs to all writers at some point... and it can either liberate you or debilitate you. Or both 🤯)
19,136 Likes | 221 days ago | 319
Congratulations to the cast of #Friends on beating #DawsonsCreek out for “Choice Throwback TV Show” at the #TeenChoiceAwards last night. I’m sure my kids won’t mind playing with this for another year...
19,372 Likes | 222 days ago | 197
Be crazy enough to let your heart shine through ❤️
6,809 Likes | 224 days ago | 372
Worth mentioning that when Bayer bought Monsanto in a recent humongous deal, they opted to phase out the “Monsanto” name. Also worth remembering that big campaign against requiring GMO labeling (Monsanto makes genetically modified seed that is resistant to Round-Up - which they also happen to make and is what they got in trouble for here)... b/c it would “increase prices for consumers”... presumably b/c there’s no nutritional info currently on packaging labels? 🤔 #Repost @vanderkimberly ・・・ Reminder: please call your city parks and rec and ask them for their spray schedule. Don’t attend parks with your beautiful little angels the day after they spray. Better yet... tell them to STOP SPRAYING!!! Another reminder: buy organic when you can. The frozen food aisle, farmers markets and whole sale grocery’s tends to be the most affordable place for organic. What else can we do to protect ourself from weed/human killers? 💚
14,064 Likes | 224 days ago | 99
I’m in creation mode... #writing every day. It’s a weird thing, to assure yourself and others of your ability to deliver on magic that, by nature, can never fully be understood. But I’m determined to no longer think of this as a battle with the unknown... but as a dance. To embrace the mystery at the pace it wishes to unfold, and to recognize within these new projects a desire to be discovered, to be shared... to manifest. In the metaphor for this process, I’m not sure whether I’m me in this photo or my daughter. Kind of feeling like both. #CreativeProcess
18,694 Likes | 225 days ago | 128
#tbt A few summers ago when I decided to thrill my son by taking him on a super-exciting #kayak ride.
66,979 Likes | 228 days ago | 579
Whatever my shortcomings as a father, as an artist, as a human... it’s nice to know I still make a completely adequate pillow. #fatherhood ❤️
53,517 Likes | 231 days ago | 765
Leave with kids, come back with teammates ❤️ #travel #worthit
26,775 Likes | 232 days ago | 225
17,655 Likes | 232 days ago | 158
#tbt My father JUST showed me this pic from when I was 5 (I’m on the right)... at the SAME LAKE I just posted and - I think - looking the same direction. Had no idea I’d been there before - just felt at home in nature and captioned it “Touching home base.” Mind blown 🤯
12,141 Likes | 232 days ago | 129
Touching home base...
39,032 Likes | 233 days ago | 503
8 trips around the sun with this one as my bride. Can’t even really begin to express how grateful I am to have found her... so I’ll just say thank you @vanderkimberly for enriching my life in ways I could have never realized on my lonesome. There’s a reason we pair up in this life... #HappyAnniversary baby ❤️
39,272 Likes | 234 days ago | 332
Warning: Images on Instagram may not come as easily as they appear 😵 * (but they’re worth it)
16,599 Likes | 235 days ago | 101
Tiny finger seeks grown-up nostril.
10,756 Likes | 236 days ago | 71
#Buddha said so much deep sh*t about rivers... I figured why not sit by a babbling brook and see what it had to say. You know what? That Buddha was onto something.
14,755 Likes | 237 days ago | 137
“Our life is frittered away by detail... simplify, simplify.” - Henry David Thoreau
18,128 Likes | 238 days ago | 259
Road warriors 😎
37,045 Likes | 239 days ago | 451
Heavy and rolling 🤟🏻
21,666 Likes | 239 days ago | 236
41,937 Likes | 241 days ago | 579
#Breastfeeding moms everywhere... we salute you ✌️
37,124 Likes | 242 days ago | 504
Just need to figure how to carry two more at the same time & I’m set 👍
15,152 Likes | 243 days ago | 71
There’s always crazy sh*t happening in the world. In your life, in your business, in your day... Sometimes it requires action. And sometimes you need to just appreciate the moment as if it’s the only thing that exists. *(because it is)
8,819 Likes | 243 days ago | 118
Cheers to the season finale of @poseonfx! To the incredible cast, crew and creative team, led by the singular @mrrpmurphy, y’all are as inspiring as you are talented, and congrats to you all on season two 🍾 Honored to have had a seat on this historic ride. #posefx
30,037 Likes | 244 days ago | 254
Technically, they’re both supposed to be napping...
22,424 Likes | 245 days ago | 120
“I can be cute, too. Pay attention to me.” - My #dog.
13,087 Likes | 246 days ago | 110
Take your daughter to work day. Friday’s @wendyshow 🤗
3,711 Likes | 246 days ago | 158
#tbt JUST released deleted scene from #TheRulesOfAttraction, via @roger.avary. Sean Bateman calling his older brother Patrick (yes, THAT Patrick Bateman... the #AmericanPsycho) to ask for money. I get why this scene was cut... which means I scraped the sh*t out of my knuckles on that pay phone for nothing. And broke the phone 😬. Link to the scene in my bio.
1,941 Likes | 246 days ago | 75
#tbt Last Thursday’s news ❤️🧡💛💚💙@poseonfx has already been picked up for a second season, so it’s safe to invest your time & heart. Start binging now & you can watch the season one finale live this Sunday 👍🏻👍🏼👍🏽👍🏾👍🏿 Tag a friend who NEEDS to watch or to watch it with you.
11,975 Likes | 248 days ago | 129
If you think I wouldn’t post about @GQ naming me “Best Dressed Man” this week, you clearly have no idea how badly dressed I was in high school. And college. And most of my twenties. 🙌🏻 @ilariaurbinati ・・・ #1 @GQ Best Dressed Men of the Week: “Van Der Beek’s look is proof that you don’t need to pile on the layers to look elegant, especially when the weather outside is pushing three digits” thanks GQ! @vanderjames in @thom__sweeney + @ovadiaandsons + @iwcwatches + @oliverpeoples + @davidyurman + @markcross shoes - styled by @ilariaurbinati
25,158 Likes | 249 days ago | 360
Ummm... So, yeah. Everything below is true 😬. #Repost @vanderkimberly ❤️ ・・・ Olivia then and now. Baby Olivia was decked out in mitts, colicky, nursed anytime she made a peep, put in front of the TV on a swing, we used the sound of an actual hair dryer to try and get her to sleep, she was swung much harder than I care to admit, we had her do tummy time even though she protested it, cried whenever we dressed her... well the list goes on. Parenting is, BIG TIME, trial and error and I didn’t have a lot of friends with kids. THE GOOD NEWS... Olivia is a fabulous young lady. She didn’t break. She had her own journey and being the first was a part of it. What she has always had is endless love from me and James. We did what we knew best and that’s all any of us can do. I share this because, while I have lots of advice for you after the fifth child, I was a first time Mom too. Sharing with you is THE ONLY reason I have decided to stay on Instagram. It takes time away from life. But I feel very compelled to share things that I wish I always knew. And I hope that it helps. 🦋🦋If you have children in your life, please share your top advice below. 🦋🦋 We all learn from one another. Mine: Get your information and then trust your intuition. There’s no one size fits all in parenting. 💗
25,437 Likes | 251 days ago | 506
The OG’s... then and now. Back then he used to wait until she fell asleep and then sneak into her bed... now he gets invited. Kids always come into this world on their own time, and in their own way... but if you’re debating whether to try for two back-to-back or to space them out... let me put in a vote for as close together as possible 😍 #siblings
5,619 Likes | 252 days ago | 55
Did this interview yesterday not knowing @poseonfx had been picked up for a second season. Swipe left ⬅️ to see how I would have looked had I known... Huge congrats to the cast, crew and creative team! Yet to be determined what my involvement might be, but psyched this saga will continue to have a place on TV. Good on ya’ @fxnetworks 🙌
30,274 Likes | 252 days ago | 385
“Daddy... it’s not like we get quiet like this every day.” #True Proof that when someone told me a key to parenting was to take your kids on solo trips... they were giving me #GoodAdvice. Tag a parent & pass it along ❤️
48,102 Likes | 253 days ago | 794
Man, life is crazy... life is beautiful. When I was 15, trying to land my first acting job, I’d walk through theatre row at dusk just to feel the energy, to soak in the excitement. I couldn’t afford a ticket to a Broadway show, but I’d save up to buy standing room every once in a while and dream of what it would be like to actually get to go back stage, see the machinery, talk shop with the actors... Today I had two tickets in my name for @anastasiabway... one of them for my oldest daughter. I watched her experience the magic of live theater, meet the stellar cast with stars in her eyes, and then hang out with one of my favorite humans - a woman who first played my mother on stage at 16 before becoming everyone’s all-time Grams - the supernatural #MaryBethPeil. So many crazy, frustrating, uncertain moments on this journey, but every in a while the universe clicks into place and you realize you just hit a jackpot. Tonight was one of those moments.
5,980 Likes | 253 days ago | 49
When the green room decor matches your wardrobe and you can’t hide your vibe. 💚 Interview up on @buildseriesnyc. We go niche: Talk Todd Solondz, character infrastructure, imperfections, and F Scott Fitzgerald in heaven.
8,724 Likes | 253 days ago | 56
I love it when my mic matches my shirt. Today 😊 @livekellyandryan to promote @poseonfx Sunday’s at 9 💃🏾
11,029 Likes | 253 days ago | 141
My entourage. @livekellyandryan
24,162 Likes | 254 days ago | 276
Been traveling with this one since the beginning... all of a sudden she’s a companion #DaddyDaughterWorkTrip
36,645 Likes | 255 days ago | 449
#ProTip: #Newborns have a grace period when the ambient noise of a restaurant actually lulls them to sleep. So reserve a booth at your favorite restaurant and take your baby momma out for a much-needed date before this window closes 👍 (#AndDontLetAnybodyCoughOnYourKid) @vanderkimberly
24,636 Likes | 255 days ago | 338
Can’t decide whether this looks like I’m trying to pose for a catalogue for clothes or for #babies.
10,801 Likes | 255 days ago | 168
#Protip: 5 kids, no sleep, 1,000 miles driven and extreme heat are not performance enhancers in the not-getting-sick deptartment. But they are all fun.
14,094 Likes | 256 days ago | 436
Hey @elonmusk... you got anything lying around @spacex that can cut through bureaucracy? (Pic by @pia.guerra via @the_nib)
41,241 Likes | 257 days ago | 8,944
This is not me watching TV. I swear 🤥. Curious why you started following me... Was it a specific project? Do you have a favorite? Or have you never seen anything I’ve done and just now realized you’re not following Jean Claude Van Damme? Anyway... lmk
14,533 Likes | 257 days ago | 139
@evanpeters is a really good f*cking actor. I realize this is hardly news, but I didn’t want to go without saying that one of the joys of working on @poseonfx was constantly having a committed scene partner with zero ego, whose first priority was the work, who listened and was present in every take of every scene, and who was so, well... just flat-out good that it made my job easy. It’s not a given to come out of a gig feeling like a better actor than you went in, but this one feels like that. And Evan was key. Thanks bud. Sorry for all the torture I put you through on screen 😬#GivePropsWhenDue. He really goes there in tonight’s episode. 9pm on FX
22,551 Likes | 258 days ago | 182
When it’s hot as hell... run towards it #Hawaii Day 😎
16,823 Likes | 258 days ago | 270
5 kids, one #minivan... no problem 👍 #tetris #DadSkills (And we won’t speak of that time I forced the back gate closed, exploding the windshield and cutting a gash in my wrist when we were running 20 min late to leave for the airport. Because we don’t need to speak of that. I’ve already forgotten it 🤫)
11,666 Likes | 260 days ago | 101
#MadMax: Toddler Road
6,739 Likes | 260 days ago | 56
Whatever mistakes I’ve made as a parent (and in life)... my kids learned how to play kickball in a vineyard. Thanks @spahnny and @jennyalden for a magical week ☺️
14,300 Likes | 261 days ago | 131
Guys... I really f*cking love this country.🇺🇸 #happy4th
39,346 Likes | 262 days ago | 1,635
Warning: The following contains graphic cuteness. If you are not used to obscenely high doses of cuteness, please consult your doctor before viewing. 👍
24,386 Likes | 262 days ago | 247
Do this baby and this feather make me look cool?
7,750 Likes | 263 days ago | 184
In my defense: a) We don’t have a bidet at home, and b) acting like a grown-up would be boring
26,864 Likes | 264 days ago | 288
#protip when you take the I-5 north, there are exactly zero playgrounds along the way... so all you can do is let the kids pee under an overpass and compare hair curls while wondering if the twentysomethings house-sitting for you are throwing a party 🤔
15,138 Likes | 265 days ago | 141
Crushing life *(circa 1989) @poseonfx NEW EPISODE Sunday 9pm on FX.
65,022 Likes | 266 days ago | 1,882
A few things I forgot between babies four and five: Dads, when your #newborn has been fed, changed, and is still upset, swaddle them up and hold them. Check in with them. Feel their face on yours. Talk to them. Rub their back, sway gently, hum, make the “swishy” sound in their ear to replicate the sound of Mom’s heartbeat in utero. If they’re still crying and it breaks your heart... that’s fatherhood. If you move past heartbreak into exasperation... that’s fatherhood. If they start screaming and you find yourself wanting to say “Oh, C’MON!” out loud... that’s fatherhood. If you feel helpless and inadequate and like you’re staring at a final exam full of questions you couldn’t possibly have known to study for... that’s fatherhood. And if you push through that... become more present than you’ve ever been, discover instincts you never knew you had, and summon up more love and patience than you’ve maybe ever shown anybody... and they either take it, or get tired, or finally work out that fart that was bothering them and fall asleep on your chest... and you suddenly feel like you beat the system, got nominated for a Nobel Prize and got told “I love you” by the first girl you ever loved... THAT’s fatherhood. Welcome... Glad you’re here. 💙
1,099 Likes | 267 days ago | 18
Plot thickening like cheap mascara... (That’s a thing... right? I’m pretty sure it is. Trying to speak the language. This is where a writer’s room would come in super handy.) 💃🏾 #Repost @poseonfx ・・・ What Mother doesn’t know can’t hurt her. Or can it? Get ready for an all-new #PoseFX this Sunday at 9p on @fxnetworks.
13,278 Likes | 268 days ago | 79
“Boy time.” 💙#FourSistersDeservesACaveAndACookie
17,747 Likes | 268 days ago | 275
You lock the gates, but you can’t stop ‘em from wanting in... There’ve been a lot of calls to lock gates, build walls, and have zero tolerance... Just want to float out there that none of these put together offer a complete solution. Walls crumble, gates get breached, administrations change, and as long as this country provides opportunity, people will want to come. The specifics of a solution are beyond my expertise... but any fix that fails to recognize the humanity of those who weren’t lucky enough to be born here... will fail.
18,129 Likes | 269 days ago | 143
The phases of #love... swipe ⬅️ for the realness.
34,254 Likes | 271 days ago | 670
She needed to rest in bed... and needed to get out of the bedroom. Solution: Outdoor #Daybed! Of my own design... #DIY saga on my stories. #ThisCountsAsAPushPresentRight? @vanderkimberly
17,707 Likes | 273 days ago | 101
A doctor, a #midwife, and 4/5 of the children they’ve helped bring into the world (our first was a hospital birth)... For NEW PARENTS: @vanderkimberly just shared a burping revelation in her Insta story that - for the population still burping their young (or about to) - is kinda’ revolutionary. Took us 5 kids to figure out 🙌... spread the word. @birthingrhythm
6,471 Likes | 274 days ago | 255
The Dad’s face, tho... 😍❤️⭐️ #Repost @allaboutvoices ・・・ This is amazing 😍 Tag a friend 👇👇 #allaboutvoices #beatbox #father #daughter
20,195 Likes | 274 days ago | 249
The fine art of removing your hand from behind their head without waking them... They only require novice-level skills the first week. But practice up. You’re going to need to be a ninja soon. 🥋#ProTip: A tight #swaddle gives them comfort and keeps their new arms & legs from startling them back awake 👍
54,306 Likes | 276 days ago | 664
Because the last pic I posted had a placenta in a bowl.
67,882 Likes | 277 days ago | 2,470
The category is: Home-Birth Realness. (Word of caution, if you’re squeamish, just double-tap and move on 👍) Messy bed ✔️ Plastic sheeting underneath old sheets ✔️Old towel crumpled on the floor ✔️ Vomit bag (unused) ✔️ Inflatable birthing tub (also unused 😬)✔️ Shirtless Dad ✔️Boy in Spider-Man pajamas ✔️Happy, healthy baby ✔️ Happy, healthy Mom in her own shower right after giving birth ✔️ Water bottle ✔️And... placenta in a mixing bowl ✔️ (I warned you 😬)
27,127 Likes | 277 days ago | 150
I don’t now how she’s done it... but I don’t really have words. All I’ve got is: wow. ❤️🌹🙌🏻 @vanderkimberly
7,324 Likes | 278 days ago | 83
Why suspenders? ‘Cause f*ck you. That’s why. New @poseonfx on TONIGHT 9pm on FX
69,206 Likes | 278 days ago | 1,773
Thrilled to announce we welcomed a brand new baby girl into the world Friday morning, just in time for #FathersDay 😍 These last few days, as I’ve enjoyed the privilege of making smoothies I know my older kids will like, making my wife red raspberry leaf tea to ease her uterine contractions, spending “boy time” with my son and getting my two year-old down for a nap in the way only I know how... I’ve been heart sick about something. As I write this, kids are being ripped from the arms of their parents. By our government. For the kid’s benefit? No - the opposite - as a purposeful display of cruelty to deter would-be illegal border crossers AND legal asylum seekers (it’s happening to both). And it wouldn’t be honest to wax poetic about my new-baby bliss without speaking up against this atrocity. If we allow our government to de-humanize fathers, and mothers, and children in the name of defending our borders... we’ve lost a huge part what makes those borders worth defending. And even if you don’t believe in karma, or in extending basic human decency to people who didn’t win the geographic birth lottery... even if you’re hard-liner enough to say, “Break the law, suffer the consequences,” shouldn’t the punishment at least fit the crime? And if you’re still cold enough to say, “Well, it’s effective,” consider this: This heinous practice was put into place by our own attorney general (who justified it with a cherry-picked Bible verse), and our president blamed rivals before tweeting his list of legislative demands to be met before he stops it. Regardless of how you feel about immigration, or a wall, or this president... if we say we’re okay with our government using human rights violations as a deterrent or as a bargaining chip... what happens when we find ourselves on the wrong side of the agenda? Either in this administration or the next? This should not be a political issue - it’s a human one. A crime against humanity is a crime against us all. More info in link i
17,903 Likes | 281 days ago | 116
Somehow she finds grace where none could possibly be expected... #ticktock @vanderkimberly
5,832 Likes | 281 days ago | 69
Turns out @breteastonellis has a closet full of books by... Bret Easton Ellis. Like most writers I vibe with. Podcast now up on @patreon. We talk @poseonfx, #WhatWouldDiploDo, we argue, we agree, and I defend my constant procreation.. ** Bonus: “Who Wore It Better?” Contest last pic in the carousel - 1980’s Bret, or me playing what could almost be a character out of a 1980’s Bret novel?
38,026 Likes | 282 days ago | 1,377
A home video (ask your parents what those were) from my TV momma - the warm, wild, and always unpredictable @thereal_marymargarethumes... back when we were all just babies and the only one with a video camera (again - ask your parents) was Mary Margaret (thank god)❤️ #Repost @thereal_marymargarethumes ・・・ #tbt a bit early...a tiny little teaser of so much #moretocome ... a typical weekend of fun captured on my video camera #behindthescenes of #dawsonscreek #90s #tvfamily #simplertimes before cellphones were a thing with people I love #thenandnow @katieholmes212 @vanderjames @vancityjax #kerrsmith And yes, Adam, one of our crew members drove the jet ski over a boat’s anchor line 😳 Oops!!! I hope my personal #memories continue to make you smile 💕
5,581 Likes | 282 days ago | 72
Thanks @hollywoodreporter for throwing some Emmy love my way for @abcmodernfam ... And @HBO for Room 104. Not going to lie - when people say I should get a trophy, I like them 🏆
32,178 Likes | 282 days ago | 485
Tough crowd 😳
4,702 Likes | 283 days ago | 44
Couldn’t figure out how to #humblebrag about the article in Sunday’s @nytimes on my fight training... so I’m just going to brag. #honesty Article by @dshyman pics by @mehringsbearings
1,279 Likes | 285 days ago | 21
Insight into the perpetual insecurity of an actor: The security guard at the hardware store asked me when I’d be on TV next, and my body instinctively went cold with panic... then a wave of relief washed over as I realized I could say, “Tonight. 9pm on @fxnetworks”. @poseonfx #AndIveBeenDoingThisFor26Years 😳 #Repost @poseonfx ・・・ This ball is just getting started. Don’t miss an all-new episode of #PoseFX Sunday at 9 PM on @fxnetworks.
39,187 Likes | 286 days ago | 299
And... just like that, the moments of chaos are balanced out. @vanderkimberly
6,889 Likes | 287 days ago | 70
@Diplo & I agreed he couldn’t really wear this jacket to a premiere, but that - as a fake TV version of him - I had to. #WhatWouldDiploDo now available on @hulu
9,270 Likes | 287 days ago | 55
He broke through borders with curiosity, appreciation, and enthusiasm for the differences between us. We could all stand to do more of that. National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1 800-273-8255
27,530 Likes | 287 days ago | 441
They’re hard to say “no” to when they gang up like this. #Friday #LastDayOfSchool
9,624 Likes | 288 days ago | 196
#tbt #TheRulesOfAttraction premiere. First time I met @breteastonellis. Note: My head is not really that big. I swear. It’s the angle. Or perspective. Or... something. ** Also - recording Bret’s podcast today. Soon to be available on @patreon
2,687 Likes | 288 days ago | 28
@poseonfx is not a show that comes at you softly... 🏳️🌈 Thanks @entertainmentweekly for recognizing this incredible cast. #Pride
13,793 Likes | 292 days ago | 252
Tonight’s the night. Tonight’s the night. Tonight’s the night. @poseonfx 9pm ET Tonight’s the night. Tonight’s the night. Tonight’s the night. Tonight’s the night.
3,732 Likes | 292 days ago | 42
On the way back from the @poseonfx premiere we happened to drive by the @thestonewallinn. Coincidence? I felt not... Inspired by the evening, I attempted to put into words what my experience on this show - and with this cast - had crystallized for me. #acceptance #HumanDignity #lgbtq #pride #BasicStraightWhiteCisDudesForLGBTQ
17,747 Likes | 293 days ago | 138
When you say: “Can I take a picture of you for Grandma?” And they hear: “The category is...”
8,827 Likes | 294 days ago | 87
#FreeAdvice to anyone making a #graduation speech in the sun... your audience will never feel like your speech was too short. Ever.
2,989 Likes | 294 days ago | 57
Reviews are in - raves across the board. 🙌Could not be happier for my co-stars and the creators of @poseonfx... and when the @nytimes says I “have a gift for...” you can just stop reading right there 🤫(last pic in carousel) #ItsAComplimentIfYouTakeItLikeOne FIRST EP AIRS SUNDAY NIGHT 💃🏾
9,944 Likes | 296 days ago | 108
In a few weeks, we’ll look back on today and think, “Boy, wasn’t that easy?” 🚼😍
8,925 Likes | 297 days ago | 110
Meet Matt Bromley. June 3. @poseonfx You can say many things about him... but you can’t really say he’s not the worst. #AndThatsTheFun. #Repost @poseonfx ・・・ If you want it, go get it. #PoseFX
17,915 Likes | 300 days ago | 183
Photo 1: Wedding #SelfieFail Photo 2: Getting there... Photo 3: Cooperation from the boy. Photo 4: Literally right after we threatened no cake unless she made a nice face #ItWorks
27,564 Likes | 300 days ago | 451
Available for weddings.
12,019 Likes | 302 days ago | 84
Totally called the paparazzi herself... ❤️
13,490 Likes | 303 days ago | 258
End of an era... @interviewmag was my first major cover, thanks to @eltonjohn, who (in the coolest, most bizarre-to-me development of my young career) was somehow a fan and convinced his friend, the inimitable #IngridSischy, to put me on the cover. I’ve been lucky to have a lot of insane firsts in my career... and looking over the interview, I can track my ideal version of what a press interaction could be back to that first cover interview with Ingrid. As for the last pic in the carousel... I got nothin’ 🤪
8,767 Likes | 305 days ago | 83
He wanted to play with my phone at 6:12am... which we’ve maybe, possibly let him do a little too often 😬. But this morning, @vanderkimberly suggested he make oatmeal instead. The result: A happy kid. And Oatmeal. #WifeyForTheWinWin
6,858 Likes | 308 days ago | 77
Such a treat to share the experience that’s been @poseonfx with my parents. And their reaction to the screening was proof that you don’t have to come from a world to care about the people in it, or to find their story deeply compelling. ❤️
9,574 Likes | 309 days ago | 40
Go pink sparkly carpet or go home. @poseonfx
2,525 Likes | 309 days ago | 13
First look at POSE! @voguemagazine (link in bio) From @fxnetworks and the brilliant @mrrpmurphy Airs June 3rd @poseonfx
11,856 Likes | 310 days ago | 55
Playing it casual...
3,673 Likes | 311 days ago | 18
Ax vs. sword... not even my lucky tights could save me. Now we know. @thejoelmchaleshow streaming now on #netflix 😎
1,680 Likes | 311 days ago | 23
#protip When interviewing for a job and asked: “What do you want?”... “I want to be you,” is never not a good answer 👍 #Repost @poseonfx ・・・ 1987. New York. It’s their time. Step inside the ballroom June 3rd on FX. #PoseFX
5,392 Likes | 312 days ago | 32
Super psyched about having lobbied to come to the flower market with us. #NotToSayIToldYou #ButIToldYou
6,446 Likes | 313 days ago | 28
#HappyMothersDay to the first woman to love & nurture the crazy in me ❤️
7,052 Likes | 313 days ago | 42
This one... who teaches me how to be a father by being the most amazing mother I could have ever wished for my kids. @vanderkimberly ❤️ Her post next in the carousel (via @bymariandrew) #HappyMothersDay everybody! 💕
5,001 Likes | 314 days ago | 24
Worth the 3am arrival... 🛫
2,443 Likes | 315 days ago | 21
#POSEWithYourCoStarsBillboardFriday It’s a thing, people... get on board. @poseonfx @indyamoore
25,542 Likes | 316 days ago | 429
#tbt #VarsityBlues wrap after-party. I don’t care how drunk we were... Friends don’t let friends wear tinted glasses. Pic via @elielswinton a.k.a. “Wendell” (btw, if you live near L.A. and want to get fast or strong or just fit, he’s your man. Check him out.) Miss that guy in the middle...
5,037 Likes | 318 days ago | 90
Before you get too excited... you wouldn’t want this character to be president. Trust me on this one. @poseonfx #posefx
7,089 Likes | 319 days ago | 113
If you haven’t seen this @childishgambino video yet... It’s genius. Disturbing, wacky, fun, poignant, and violent as your news feed. It’s a conversation starter and a tour de force from brilliant director @muraihiro. As if conquering @nbcsnl over the weekend wasn’t enough for Donald Glover... wow (song is #ThisIsAmerica)
4,067 Likes | 319 days ago | 22
The beauty of a 5:50am call time really comes into focus around 2pm #NoFilter
16,040 Likes | 320 days ago | 111
When The Queen wants pistachios... you best get crackin’ 👑
7,976 Likes | 322 days ago | 248
No tequila was harmed in the making of these bloopers. 😎 Witness the perfection at @JoseCuervoTequila #CincoDeMayo #Cincocise #Cuervo
4,277 Likes | 323 days ago | 46
Maybe it’s the long, recurring winter having long worn out it’s welcome... but #NewYorkCity has such an energy come summer that we almost don’t mind having basically skipped spring.
4,399 Likes | 324 days ago | 126
Proud to be a part of this. @childmindinstitute asked us what we’d say to #MyYoungerSelf about mental health or learning disorders. As a dyslexic who makes a living off words (and lots of big ones back in the day 😉), I often find myself calming down parents of kids who are diagnosed... but this is really a message to any kid with a learning disorder: Consider it parkour for your brain. This is not in any way to make light of the challenges, which at times can be maddening on so many levels... but you’re going to come out of it with some sick mental tricks that I promise you will serve you in other ways. #dyslexia #dyslexiapower
6,028 Likes | 324 days ago | 90
If I realized that #CincoDeMayo was on a Saturday this year, and dedicated my every waking hour to training people for an all-day celebration... this is totally the pic I’d put on the brochures I placed at the smoothie counter in your gym. Head to @JoseCuervoTequila for the full effect. #CincoCise #Cuervo
5,243 Likes | 324 days ago | 64
Kids vs. what you see when you #FaceTime them. #parenthood
11,183 Likes | 325 days ago | 171
I am NOT going to lose my new sunglasses, I am NOT going to lose my new sunglasses, I am NOT going to lose my new sunglasses... 🕶 * (Or drop them, glass-side down on the pavement. Or find them on an American Girl doll, or in the dog’s crate, or painted “very super beautiful”, or in a Spider-Man backpack, not in their case, sharing space with a rock collection) 🤞
35,739 Likes | 329 days ago | 305
#OldHeadshotDay Went with the jean shirt... y’know... ‘cause I was so edgy 🙄. Also - booked only one pilot in 4 years with this headshot. Didn’t need a headshot after that. 🍀
9,821 Likes | 329 days ago | 126
Haters gonna say it’s fake... #posefx
17,095 Likes | 331 days ago | 215
Plenty of room for one more... #minivan ✊🏻
2,772 Likes | 333 days ago | 49
It’s a real thing, people * * As real as our currency. Thanks @lastweektonight for inviting me to play 😜
8,100 Likes | 334 days ago | 44
When talking shop w/ someone smarter than you, it pays to listen... (#DIY saga on my stories)